freenovelworld Chapter 593: A Day in the Life of a Psychologist
Chapter 593: A Day in the Life of a Psychologist
The next morning, Lu Cheng got up, stretched his muscles in the community, did some boxing, and had a simple breakfast. Then he went home, changed his clothes, and came to his workplace, a studio less than three kilometers away from the Love Apartment: Zhicheng Soul Station.
Open the office door, open the windows for ventilation, then turn on the computer, printer and other equipment, print out several copies of the different types of psychological tests that I had compiled earlier, and put them aside.
These test questions include personality tests, sexual orientation tests, psychological age tests, social adaptability tests, stress tests, etc., covering quite a lot of types.
For example, there is a stress test question: "When eating instant noodles, do you always like to crush them before eating?"
There is a quirk test question: "When you take off your worn socks, do you pick them up and smell them?"
There is a personality test question: "When walking, do you like to step on the line or walk along the blind path."
Adaptability test question: "If you get bitten by a mosquito, you must carve a cross or a tic-tac-toe on the bulge."
There are other examples such as: "When you have a pimple on your face, you know that squeezing it will hurt and leave scars, but you still can't help but squeeze it, and you will feel a sense of accomplishment when you squeeze it out."
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These test questions are all small scenes that are common in daily life. They may seem ordinary, but they can reflect some personality problems in some aspects.
After completing a complete set of test questions, you can make a general judgment about the patient's personality and mental state.
Originally, printing test questions, organizing patient files, etc. should be handled by assistants, but Lu Cheng doesn’t have an assistant now, so he has to do everything by himself.
After sorting out the test questions, Lu Cheng opened the Q&A section of the website, looked for some questions asked by patients, and answered them.
When this psychological counseling room was first established, there were no clients. Lu Cheng first promoted it through online channels and answered questions for free, thus accumulating some fans for himself.
I opened the website and found a new question that had just appeared in the past two days. Lu Cheng gave a proficient answer:
Question: "Hello, teacher. I have a friend who is a girl. But she can't control herself and can't help herself... She feels a lot of psychological pressure and a strong sense of guilt now. What do you think she should do?"
Answer: "First, you have to tell her that she must learn to face her desires. Both men and women will have desires during adolescence, and girls are no exception. Don't have too much psychological burden. You can read more books, exercise more, relieve stress, and control your desires appropriately..."
Question: "Teacher, hello. I am a boy. I recently secretly bought a beautiful pink skirt. When no one was at home, I tried it on myself. After putting on the skirt, I felt very happy and had a very different feeling. Do you think I am sick?"
Answer: "Everyone has their own interests and hobbies. Your interests and hobbies are just a little different. As long as you feel happy and do not hinder others or harm society, any interests and hobbies are understandable. Of course, you also have to..."
Question: "Hello, teacher. My boyfriend always likes me to call him dad. Is he a psychopath?"
Answer: "Some special hobbies can reflect a person's subconscious. Your boyfriend may just have a strong desire to conquer, and maybe his usual behavior is a little different. But if it is just a problem of addressing, it does not constitute a psychological abnormality. Perhaps, you can give him more guidance and encouragement in daily life..."
Question: "Teacher, my girlfriend often hangs out with other boys and doesn't bring me along. Sometimes they go to bars together. I don't let her go, and she thinks I'm narrow-minded, not generous enough, and not like a man. She also said that we should give each other enough space. But I just feel uncomfortable. Teacher, what do you think I should do?"
Answer: "Next time you can ask her to go with you. If she still refuses and communication is fruitless, I suggest you change your girlfriend. Maybe she is really not suitable for you..."
Question: "Teacher, I am a male college student. There is a roommate in our dormitory who is fair and tender, and looks like a girl. I recently found that I seem to like him more and more, and I really want to touch him in bed at night. Am I sick?"
answer:"……"
You will always encounter all kinds of strange questions on the Internet. Most of them may just be due to stress in life, some may be mentally abnormal, and some may be pure pranks.
After briefly dealing with some issues, Lu Cheng opened his email again and checked the resumes that had been submitted recently. After a simple screening, he called several girls who had submitted resumes and invited them for interviews.
At ten o'clock in the morning, the first patient who had an appointment today came to the consultation room. She was a girl about twenty-three years old, with average looks, average figure, and a slightly delicate look.
After entering the room, the girl did not immediately walk over to sit opposite Lu Cheng, but first looked around the environment, with a little nervousness in her eyes. Her right hand was always on the bag, and her left hand was clenched into a fist, obviously lacking a sense of security.
"Hello, Miss Liu. I'm Lu Cheng. Please come in and have a seat."
The placement of every table, chair, and flower arrangement in Lu Cheng's office is carefully considered, and the distance between himself and the patients is also relatively safe.
Many patients with psychological problems are very sensitive and more wary than ordinary people.
Therefore, the first step in psychotherapy is to allow the other person to completely relax, gradually let down their psychological guard, and be willing to express their true feelings.
Lu Cheng walked to the water dispenser and poured himself a cup of warm water. The water temperature was just right, neither too cold nor too hot. It warmed his hands when he held them, and it didn't burn his mouth when he drank it.
"Let me introduce myself first. My name is Lu Cheng. I have a PhD in psychology and am best at emotional analysis and psychological counseling. Miss Liu, you can trust me. Everything you say to me will be kept strictly confidential. I will not disclose your information to anyone else without your permission."
"Okay, Dr. Lu. Actually...actually, I feel that I have some relationship problems with my boyfriend recently. I don't know what to do next, so I want to ask for your help."
"Miss Liu, you don't have to be so polite. You can call me teacher."
Calling a doctor "doctor" will make the patient think he is sick, which is not conducive to relaxation. Changing the name will have a very different effect.
Of course, for some patients, the title of doctor may bring more sense of security.
Therefore, Lu Cheng also needs to adjust his communication style and tone at any time by observing micro-expressions and movements.
Psychotherapy is an emotional process that places great emphasis on feelings. The first impression and the image of the doctor are both very important.
As Lu Cheng spoke in a friendly manner, the woman in front of him gradually relaxed her guard and began to speak: "Recently, my boyfriend has been addicted to games. He ignores me when I talk to him. Even...even the black stockings he usually likes to see...Do you think he doesn't love me anymore?"
"That cannot be confirmed yet. Can you tell me in detail how you met and how you became a couple?"
"Okay, we've known each other since college, and it's been six years..."
Next, Ms. Liu began to recount in detail the entire process of her and her boyfriend from meeting to knowing each other to falling in love, including their first meal, first date, first movie, etc., without any detail being left unexplained.
Lu Cheng did not show any impatience. He listened patiently, responded with a sentence or two from time to time, and his expression changed constantly with the other party's story. He played the role of a perfect listener.
This also made Miss Liu on the opposite side gradually develop a certain degree of trust in Lu Cheng. She felt that Lu Cheng was someone who understood her very well, and she had a feeling that they had met a soulmate too late.
Of course, this is also an essential skill for a psychologist, to empathize with the patient, or at least to make the patient feel that he or she empathizes with the doctor.
"…Just the day before yesterday, when he was playing a group game, I unplugged his power cord. He was very angry and has been ignoring me ever since. Mr. Lu, do you think he wants to break up with me?"
"That's not necessarily true. For a boy, unplugging the power cord while he's playing in a group is a big deal. He didn't break up with you right away, which proves that he still loves you.
Perhaps, you lack a sense of security in your heart, want more of his attention and companionship, and are afraid of losing him, which makes you anxious about gains and losses. "
"Then what should I do?"
"First, you have to acknowledge your inner self and learn to face your fears and anxieties...
Then, you have to learn to give each other some space and learn to express your emotions. If you have something to say, just say it directly, instead of unplugging the power cord…”